[Zaph0d]

counter-strike and team fortress lead to the eventual downfall of my 1.5 year long relationship

[Jabberwocky]

another computer game takes claim of another relationship... OH When will the madness end... WHEN!

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[Transcendence]

bestfriend's parents were childhood friends, blah blah blah...they're like late 40's..maybe 50's and are still going strong. The amazing part? They've never had a fight. Disagreements, sure. A fight? nope.

[Count Zero]

Yeah, when are people gonna realize that computer games make people into mindless killers, destroy relationships, are made (directly & indirectly) by Satan himself, cause anti-social behaviour and sleep deprivation, increase/intensify mood swings, distort one's sense of reality and cause aggressive behaviour?

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[FaithInChaos]

i play video games just for those reasons.

[Jabberwocky]

No Count Zero is right... it's true. People get addicted to them just like alcohol, drugs, gambling, smoking, etc... There's a site on it... www.computeraddiction.com. I print a ton of the shit off, highlighted some of the Key facts and had a friend leave it in my X (?)'s car when he was at work... Wonder if he got the clue?



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[Transcendence]

I only fit one of those

[Chapel]

Transcendence: "Failure to attend to personal hygiene"?

[Jabberwocky]

It's sad my X (?) is all but like one or two of them ... Sad sad sad. And he's been more violent, and more depressed since he's started playing there... hint hint hint... Well some of us gets the clue.

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[FaithInChaos]

if you guys had kids i would say try and work things out...but i dont think you do, do you?
leave him the fuck alone, obviously hes trying to find an excape...maybe you dont give him enough space. if you are going to say video games are like a drug, then you have to realise that drug use isnt the cause of a problem they are a sign that there is a problem. your relationship with your ex has some major issues, and him playing video games isnt the root of it, just a sign that they exist.

[shahar2k]

would computer game addiction be an issue, if you'r absolutely sick of that stupid counterstrike that your best friend keeps telling you to play? heh I exhibit all those symptoms when using painter 6.0

[Transcendence]

Chapel: lol. no, not really. sometimes though [taking a shower]. I was meaning the

"Someone connects to the Internet at 9:00 PM and suddenly discovers it is dawn and he has not left the computer"

[Jabberwocky]

FaithInChaos- Yes there was more problems than just the gaming, but he went to the games instead of dealing with the problems. And most of the problems weren't about our relationship...
I talked to him last night until like 1 in the morning... we hadn't talked like that since we first started dating. We had figured out that what was putting a lot of pressure on us was that when we started going out we set aside a lot of stuff we wanted to accomplish. He had this list of things I want to have accomplished before age 21... He didn't have a one accomplished, and so he was stressing out about it and kicking himself, he does claim that he would have some accomplished if he wasn't playing the computer games all the time. So right now we're staying friends... we get along better that way too, there's no pressure from each other or our friends. We're trying to catch up on the things we set aside, and later we might try again...

And no we don't have any kids... came close a few times.


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[Thorn]

Ummm, Jabberwocky,(with all due respect)what is this list you mentioned?

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He had this list of things I want to have accomplished before age 21... He didn't have a one accomplished, and so he was stressing out about it and kicking himself,
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I read that and I cringe. That sounds very heavy and serious. Who's agenda is this? Yours? Your family's and his? Perhaps there are too many expectations bouncing around in your relationship. (Maybe a few unrealistic ones as well). A list of 'things to accomplish' is great for a business relationship. Not so nice for an intimate one, though.


Quick edit. >>If this reads with a harsh tone, its not meant that way. Its just a thought...

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[Jabberwocky]

I think you misunderstood... It was a list he made himself like his freshman year in High school...
He wanted to have learned some software, be able to run a certain kind of server, and other things like that. It was a list he made himself for himself... he just set all those things aside when we started dating. Not just because of us dating, but his job changed and he spent too much time playing games (he said that himself). It had nothing to do with our relationship. Now he just wants to spend some time getting caught up... And this gives me some time to work more seriously with my art and get ready for college. And about a lot of pressure... I think he does put too much on himself. He's one of two people at his work that actually knows what he's doing so he's there all hours of the night, he goes to that gaming place and keeps their computers running (not getting paid for it... and he still has to pay to use their computers), and then he has family and friends on top of that... Oh well he's learning!

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[Thorn]

Oh, okay. Whewww... Just thought I'd ask. I'm a reformed 'need to achieve' freak (and I know all about family pressure) so whenever I see things like 'lists of accomplishments blah, blah' a big part of me goes DANGER WILL ROBINSON, DANGER!!

Anyway...cloudbusting is nice when your heart is hurting, Jabberwocky. And cats. Cats are good.



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[shahar2k]

I used to have a cat... my parents left him in Israel... when we moved to KANSAS
bah

[JohnGone]

Nevermind

[Thorn]

lol, Gliebster. Thats so cute.

My cat wants to put in a few words, too. She's just so pushy sometimes...





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[Jabberwocky]

Thorn-
I love it... I'm going to put that on my web site! And my background! Don't worry I have 2 cats... a pure white one and one that looks like Gliebster's cat.


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[Thorn]

lol, I'll tell Mrs. Turner (thats her in the piccie). She'll be happy that her consciousness-raising cat message is finally getting out there to the world. Humans, according to Mrs. T, have got it all wrong-CATS are the centre of the universe.

And that comment Mrs. T made about the superspecial people--trust what she says. She KNOWS about these things.


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[Jabberwocky]

My mother bought me a puppy... I spend way too much time with him... I'm taking him to puppy classes and everything... I love my Pom... I had a cat... came when I whistle, but the neighbors took her when they movied.

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